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Your Mood vs Your Future

If you are feeling blue, you’re probably going against the nature of life instead of going with its flow.

Life is like riding a bicycle, says Matt Furey, the president of the Psycho-Cybernetics Foundation. When you stop pedaling and go against the nature of riding a bike, you fall.

Life is no different.

Once you understand this, you stop giving unnecessary airtime to a low mood and keep doing what needs to be done anyway.

Listening to our emotions as a guidance system is a valuable skill. If we are far away from connecting to our heart and making sense of our feelings, we block solutions and turn down the opportunity to change.

In most cases, when people lack this connection with their inner world, they engage in avoidant behaviors like overworking, overeating, overspending, hyperactivity, or other indulgent patterns.

However, if you decode your emotions, establish a healthy connection with yourself, and still choose to keep doing what needs to be done — that’s great.

And today we’re talking about what we miss when we’re not able to do this, and how to make sure we stay on track despite challenging emotions.

First and most important: if you follow your mood, you cannot manifest a life different from the one you currently live.

Because how we feel is how we act and think.

If you keep following your mood and continue feeling what you already feel, you cannot create a reality that would make you feel any different.

The life you want is built the moment you stop negotiating with your mood and start honoring the vision you already chose.

Secondly, we usually decide on our goals with our thinking mind. We research, assess, and make the most reasonable decisions.

However, the next day when it comes to following the plan, we question everything as if yesterday never happened.

Does that sound familiar?

But why does this happen?

Because we let our mood decide the actions that will eventually decide our future.

Do you know what is the best way to believe in your future — the future you want to experience?

“You have to feel the feelings of that future in order to believe in that future. That’s the only way you believe,” says Dr. Joe.

And how do you do that?

By refusing to listen to what your mood dictates you to do.

You already decided what you decided — the thinking, the planning, the goal-setting.

The rest is your fear negotiating with you.

What happens the next day is your old self insisting on making decisions for your new self.

Yes, listen to your fear. Listen to your anxiety. Listen to your doubt.

But just have a tea with them — never invite them to dinner, as a Zen saying goes.

You probably agree that consistency is one of the most crucial pillars of achieving results.

Find what works and keep doing it, even if there are no results yet.

Keep taking action. Whether it’s posting consistently or meditating daily.

Keep putting faith in the unseen.

Leila Hormozi says it bluntly:

“F*ck your mood and follow the plan.”

Your future is not decided by how you feel today — it is decided by what you choose to do despite how you feel.

Reflection Prompts

1️⃣ Where in my life have I been letting my mood decide my actions?

2️⃣ What decision did I make recently with a clear mind that I started questioning the next day?

3️⃣ If I refused to negotiate with my mood for the next 7 days, what would I keep doing consistently?

4️⃣ Am I listening to my emotions to understand them — or to justify stopping?

5️⃣ What emotions show up most often when I am about to follow through with something important?

6️⃣ What does my future self want me to keep doing right now, regardless of how I feel?

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